Valentine’s Day can be tough for single guys.
As if the dog days of winter in the middle of February weren’t gloomy enough, along comes a holiday seemingly tailor-made to remind you that you’re not currently in a relationship.
Thanks for f@¢&ing nothing, Hallmark!
But believe it or not, February 14th doesn’t have to be a pity party. There are multiple ways single guys can make the most of the day – and maybe even have some fun while they’re at it.
Number one with a bullet. (Or a barbell, as it were.)
There’s no better antidote for depression than a good workout.
Not only will it get the endorphins flowing and leave you with a natural high, you can further take pride in the fact that you’re spending your day making yourself better – rather than giving into the temptation to wallow in pity or self-doubt.
Hit the gym or get outside for a hike or a walk. It doesn’t matter what you do, so long as you do something active.
Not sure where to start? Check out my post about how to start – and stick to – a workout plan.
2. Volunteer Your Time
Couples like to think that Valentine’s Day is oh-so-romantic, but let’s be honest: it’s also self-indulgent.
Flip the script and focus your time and attention not on yourself – and what you feel you might be lacking, like a relationship – but on a worthy cause.
Find a soup kitchen or an animal shelter, an after-school reading program or a computer-literacy class: any not-for-profit cause that you deem worthy, where you could have a positive impact.
While everyone else is out at a restaurant or gorging themselves on over-priced chocolate, you’ll be making the world a better place.
Good luck feeling depressed after that.
3. Create an Online Dating Profile
For single guys, one of the worst parts about Valentine’s Day is the feeling of loneliness – it’s oh-so-tempting to spend the day focusing on what (and who) you don’t have.
But the truth is that you’re not the only one who feels that way – far from it, in fact.
There are dozens, and depending on where you live, maybe even hundreds of eligible women (or men, if that’s who you’re after) out there who are also single and looking to change their situation.
Creating an online dating profile and scanning through some profiles is a great way to find a like-minded mate. And doing it on Valentine’s Day is a perfect way to remind yourself that many other people are in the exact same position.
Check out a few of the most popular dating sites beloww to get started. (Note that if you choose to sign up for Match.com, my readers save 25% when using the link below.)
For much more about wading into the dating pool, check out my post about How to Find a Girlfriend, which serves as a beginner’s guide to building your dating confidence, finding the right woman and establishing a connection.
4. Bury Yourself in a Good Book
How often do you tell yourself “I should read more” and then proceed to binge through a few more hours of Netflix or some other TV show?
Circle February 14th on your calendar and make a point of setting aside a few hours that day for reading.
As with exercising, you’ll be able to take pride in the fact that you’re taking concrete action to better yourself.
And even better, losing yourself in a good book will make you forget all about the fact that some greeting card company is trying to shit on single people today.
If you’re looking for a few recommendations, I’ve put together a list of the best self-help books for younger guys (at least, in my humble opinion). You can also check out my Book Reviews series for more in-depth summaries of some of my favorites.
If you’re looking for a wider range of options, a great place to start is Amazon’s list of New York Times’ Bestsellers. They’ve broken them down into categories that make it easy to find what you’re looking for.
5. F@¢K It, You Win: Binge Away!
If you just can’t bring yourself to do something productive that will help you grow and improve, it’s OK to just bury your head in the proverbial sand and binge through some shows and movies.
But be smart about what you watch. Avoid anything about love or relationships that will make you long for what you don’t have to.
Instead, you’re looking for some good ol’ escapist fun that will transport you to a world far far away and make you think of anything but romance.
A few random suggestions include:
Captain America: Civil War (or any Avengers movie)
This movie may be rich in bromance, but romance? Barely a whiff of it.
A testament to the bonds of brotherhood. There’s barely a woman in this movie!
Skyfall (or any Bond Movie)
James Bond is a lot of things. Romantic is not one of them.
An engrossing movie about a disgusting controversy. Perfect!
Two journalists dig deep to uncover a scandal so big it took down a president. (Remember when there was such a thing?)
Nineteen years after the release of Titanic, a bear does to Leonardo DiCaprio what the rest of us have always wanted to.
The zombie apocalypse comes to Georgia. As if the Braves weren’t frustrating enough.
I’ve never heard of this show. Is it popular?
A man goes bald, then becomes a total bad-ass. Loosely based on the life story of Jason Statham.
In a futuristic world, rich people pay a fortune to kill James Marsden over and over again. (Presumably because they agree he was miscast as Cyclops.)
The lawyer from Breaking Bad becomes the main character of a surprisingly awesome show.
Basically the TV-version of Saving Private Ryan. Ten hours of television, less than five women.
What are your strategies for beating the Valentine’s blues? Any recommendations for appropriately distracting books, movies or TV shows? Let me know in the comments.