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Welcome to Irreverent Gent !

Dave Bowden Irreverent Gent
Full Disclosure: I photoshopped the HELL out of this headshot. 

Hey, I’m Dave.

I’m on a mission to help you take control of your confidence and make yourself esteemed.

I’m here to help guys harness the power of self-improvement to escape insecurity, overcome over-thinking, squash self doubt and unleash their best selves.

How? By sharing information that helps you…

  • Better understand your strengths and develop a confident, optimistic Mindset that makes you more willing to take risks and more resilient in the face of adversity.
  • Build a Body that allows you to look, feel and perform at your best—oh, and quite possibly live a longer, healthier, happier life. (Not a bad bonus, right?)
  • Overcome shyness and develop the Social Skills you need to land jobs, get dates and forge fulfilling relationships.
  • Make Style a strength, not a struggle, by showing you how to cultivate a confident image.

I know what it’s like to be mired in self-defeating self-doubt; to feel more like a worrier than a warrior; to sweat the small stuff; and to spend more time fretting and stressing than acting and improving.

And I’m here to tell you: it can be overcome.

By harnessing your penchant for analysis and attention to detail, you can take your thoughtfulness from a perceived weakness to an undeniable strength. You can use self-improvement to bolster your self-confidence, and Make Yourself Esteemed.

I know because I’ve done it. And you can too.

It’s Hard Out There for a Gent

As quieter, more pensive men, it can sometimes feel like society wants us to be something we’re not.

Guys who find themselves on the more contemplative or introspective end of the spectrum find ourselves in a somewhat awkward societal situation.

From movies and TV to books and even the news, most forms of media would have you believe that men are “supposed” to be extroverts who act without thinking: outgoing, gregarious thrill-seekers who are always on the go in search of action and adventure.

But personally, as an inward-looking over-thinker who’s always on the couch in search of action and adventure (movies to stream on TV), I’ve never been comfortable with the media’s definition of what a man “should” be, and my confidence has suffered for it.

There’s got to be a way to be a strong, self-confident man while still being pensive and reflective, right? (spoiler alert: yep! keep reading.)

Good Advice is Hard to Find

Adding to the precariousness of our position is the fact that, as men who spend a lot of time in our own heads, we tend to play our cards pretty close to our chests. (It’s kind of our thing.)

As a result, we don’t talk much about our struggles or our desire to build self-confidence, and with good reason.

There are few things more frustrating than trying to talk to someone who just doesn’t get you, and few things as annoying as bearing the depths of your soul, only to be given shallow or generically unhelpful advice.

You know the kind of pleasantries I mean. The classics like, “Don’t over-analyze everything,” or “You shouldn’t compare yourself to others,” or my personal favorite “Just stop worrying about what other people think.” (of course! why didn’t i think of that…)

It’s like, yeah, no shit! We all want to stop over-thinking, take more action and become more assertive, sociable and self-confident.

But how??

Self-Confidence Comes
From Self-Improvement

And you can too.

The good news is, it’s a lot more doable than you think.

There really is a way to escape your insecurities, stop over-analyzing every tiny detail, and start taking action to become your best self.


It starts by better understanding your own mind. Once you realize why you think (and think, and think some more) the way you do, it becomes much easier to stop analyzing every little thought and start taking action.


Once your mindset is more action-oriented, the first and best place to direct your efforts is your body – build a better body, build a better you. Getting stronger and healthier naturally leads to becoming more confident and happier.

People Skills

Next up are your people skills. There’s simply no denying it: human beings are social creatures. When you improve your social skills, you become more at ease in the world – and more fulfilled in the process.


And finally there’s your style. When you look good, you feel good, and the better you feel the more likely you’ll be to take action in every other aspect of your life.

Introspection ≠ Insecurity

When you work to both understand and improve these four facets of life you become the best possible version of yourself, not what anyone else thinks you should be.

Investing in your own self-improvement will help to make any task easier — even the ones we introverts often struggle with most, like talking to girls, trying new things, bouncing back from rejection, making new friends, and damn near everything else.

Invest in Yourself

That’s why my mission is to share the best self-improvement advice I can find to help you build real, lasting and (perhaps most importantly) authentic self-confidence.

And the best part? You don’t have to pretend to be something you’re not. But you will have to get up off the couch. (Sorry. Trust me when I say I wish it could be avoided.)

Let’s Get Started

If you’re ready to escape insecurity and start building self-confidence today, I’ve put together a free email series:

9 Proven, Powerful Ways to Build and
Project Self-Confidence

In this series you’ll learn:

  • How to train your brain to think more confidently – Every. Damn. Day.
  • How to get an instant dose of confidence whenever you need it most.
  • How to confidently converse with anyone.
  • And a lot more!

Sign up below to have the first lesson sent straight to your inbox – totally free! (You really cannot beat that price.)

From the Blog

Can’t wait around for emails to arrive in your inbox? No worries. Below I’ve rounded up a few posts that provide direct, actionable advice you can use to start thinking, feeling, looking and socializing better now.

How to Become a More Confident Man:
5 Ways to Build Authentic Self-Confidence

Find out how to start building self-confidence the right way – slowly, surely and irreversibly – by focusing on these five fundamental areas of life.


The Best (Non-Bullshit!)
Self-Help Books for Young Men

I’ve wasted a lot of time and an embarrassing amount of money in search of the best self-help books for guys, so you don’t have to. (You’re welcome!)

How to Start and (Finally!) Stick to a Workout Plan

Starting a workout plan? Tough. Sticking to a workout plan? Navy SEAL tough (at least for some of us). Fortunately, it doesn’t have to be. Follow these steps to get your ass in gear.


Define Your Look:   Create a Personal Style Profile

What the hell’s a Personal Style Profile, you ask? The best way to make you look and feel comfortable, authentic and confident in your clothes.


Become More Social:
13 Ways to Power Up Your People Skills

For shy guys, being more confident around other people is kind of the holy grail – but it doesn’t have to be. Find out how to become more social and break out of your shell.


How to Become More Social

A (wee) Bit of Reverence – For You!

In all seriousness, I truly consider it an honor that you would take time out of your day to check out my website. So, sincerely:

Thank You!

As someone who has worked hard to come out of his bedroom shell over the years, I want you to know that – all my lame jokes notwithstanding – it really is possible to overcome your self-doubt and achieve more.

I know because I did it – and you can, too.

Get in Touch

I’d love to find out where you are on your self-confidence journey and how I can help you improve. You can use my Contact Form, email me directly at or find me on Twitter: @IrreverentGent. I’d love to hear from you.

Thanks again for visiting, and sorry about all the lame jokes.*





*I’m also sorry for all the apologies – I can’t help it, dammit, I’m Canadian!**

**Sorry, was that too much?

(aka, the part where I cover my ass)
The information shared on this website is meant for entertainment purposes only. I hold no degrees in medicine, psychology, exercise physiology or style(ology?), and I am not an expert in any of those fields. (I do, however, have degrees in philosophy and journalism, so I am an expert at not getting a job after graduating.)

If you are in search of medical or psychological advice, speak to your doctor immediately or seek out a trained professional.