Hey, I’m Dave.
Welcome to Irreverent Gent, the website dedicated to helping guys build self-confidence through self-improvement (but, you know, without getting all self-serious about it).
My mission is to empower guys to lead lives of strength, style, character and confidence, and my goal is twofold:
I believe that confidence isn’t something you’re born with; it’s something you build. And while my freshman-year journalism school prof would kill me for using such hackneyed cliches, in the pursuit of self-confidence I’ve found two principles to prove true: knowledge is power and practice makes perfect.
By learning how to improve the way you think, look and feel, then putting those lessons into action, you can:
Take Control of Your Confidence
Make Yourself Esteemed
And along the way I’ll drop in a few (alright fine – maybe more than a few) jokes, as a reminder that self-improvement doesn’t have to be self-serious or stuffy. In fact, in my experience, it can be pretty f@¢&ing fun.
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You Can Build Real, Authentic, Lasting Self-Confidence
…even if you doubt yourself, over-think everything and don’t know where to start
Let me ask you something:
Do you ever feel like you’re not living up to your full potential?
Do you know how it feels to walk into a room – a classroom, an office, a party, a gym – and feel like you’re the odd man out, like you just don’t belong there?
Have you ever seen a guy who was fit, well dressed and self-assured, and felt like you just can’t compete with him?
And, most importantly: do you want to learn how to change all that?
I know I certainly did. I spent more years than I care to admit in a near-constant state of self-doubt, second-guessing, insecurity and jealousy.
I watched as my peers took initiative and did all the things that I wanted to do — including talking to women, joined teams and clubs, making new friends and getting cool jobs — while I was at home, too afraid to take action, and making excuses for why I was squandering my potential and missing out on life.
It was a lonely, depressing and damn near crippling feeling.
It wasn’t until I finally reached bottom that I realized I couldn’t blame my insecurity on anyone else — and I couldn’t expect anyone else to make me more confident, either. If I was ever going to escape my self-doubt and build more confidence, I’d have to do it myself.
That’s when I got serious about self-improvement.
I spent more than a decade reading, watching and listening to every piece of personal development advice I could get my hands on, and learned a lot about the mind and how it works.
I spent days, weeks and months in the gym building a bigger, stronger body, and finally started taking pride in my physical presence.
I tried every conversation hack, pick up trick and socializing method I could find until I finally learned how to get over my nerves and confidently converse with anyone.
I read fashion magazines, poured over menswear blogs and spent hours consulting with department store clerks to develop a dapper, classically masculine and sharp sense of style.
It took many (many!) years, but I finally became a man of strength, style, character and confidence—I made myself esteemed.
And I realized that, since I’d already done the legwork, other guys could benefit from what I learned. By investing so much time and money into my own personal development, I created a template that any guy can follow to improve his body, mind, social skills, style and, inevitably, his self-confidence.
And yes, by “any guy” I do mean you.
I have to admit, at first I was reluctant to share this with anyone.
Even after using personal development to make some dramatic changes in my life, I still thought of “self-help” as being the domain of nonsensical feel-goodery and bullshit quackery, and I had no desire to join the fray.
But the truth is that as a skeptic by nature and a journalist by trade, I couldn’t and wouldn’t engage in any activity that wasn’t well founded and evidence-backed; I may have tried everything under the sun, but I would never suggest it to someone else unless it worked.
Eventually I realized that, while I may have to put up with some good-natured teasing from my friends about becoming a “self-help” author, I had an obligation to share the results of my research with guys who can benefit from it.
That’s why I’m proud that every step, tip and trick I recommend is backed either by research, personal experience, or both.
So is it “self-help”? I guess so—though I prefer the term “self-improvement.”
Is it bullshit quackery? Hell no. (Well, maybe a few of the jokes…)
Imagine how good it would feel to replace your self-doubt with authentic and well-earned self-confidence.
Think about how much you could do and achieve if you were less afraid to take risks and more resilient in the face of adversity.
Picture yourself as the sort of fit, well dressed, poised and confident man who today you can only envy—then think about that room full of people and imagine how fulfilling it would be to know that not only do you belong, but that you’re strong.
Becoming that guy isn’t just a matter of wishful thinking. It’s not a pipe dream or some distant fantasy.
It’s the natural outcome of learning what you need to know and taking the right actions that lead to thinking, looking and feeling better.
I’ve spent more than 10 years and thousands of dollars on personal development.
I’ve bought dozens of self-help and self-improvement books and programs, worked with personal trainers, and spent way more money than I should have on clothes, all in the pursuit of self-confidence and personal betterment.
And if you’d like, you’re welcome to invest the same amount of time and money as I did; it may not be quick, and it’s definitely not cheap.
But if you spend years trying everything under the sun until you find the things that actually work, you might get the results you’re looking for.
Or, you could learn from my mistakes and reap the benefits of my decade of research, trial and error.
I’ve put together an e-book, the Self-Confidence Starter Guide, that lays out a five-step plan for starting to build the sort of deeply rooted, authentic self-confidence that lasts.
Over the course of 20 pages, I’ve laid out five of the most important things I’ve learned on my decade-plus path to confidence, and distilled down into a blueprint for starting to build a better you.
This short, straightforward guide will show you:
Since I make my living by researching, writing and selling my work, I would normally charge about 10 bucks for this kind of thing. But I don’t want you to make the same mistake I did, and find an excuse to put your self-confidence on the back burner for yet another day.
So I’m offering the Self-Confidence Starter Guide totally free to my email subscribers. Simply enter your email address below to download your free copy, and start building self-confidence today — not tomorrow, not next week, and not months from now. Today.
As a special bonus, when you download the Self-Confidence Starter Guide you’ll also be enrolled in my Squash Self-Doubt e-mail course, which will show you how to overcome negative thinking, push past social fears, use body language effectively, and more.
Offering all of this for free probably isn’t the best business move on my part, but I studied philosophy and journalism in school—no one ever taught me how to make money. Plus, I want you to start learning how to strengthen your self-confidence right now, so that you can experience how empowering self-improvement can be when you put it into practice and take action.
In all seriousness, I truly consider it an honor that you would take time out of your day to check out my website. So, sincerely:
As someone who has worked hard to come out of his
bedroom shell over the years, I want you to know that – all my lame jokes notwithstanding – it really is possible to overcome your self-doubt and achieve more.
I know because I did it – and you can, too.
I’d love to find out where you are on your self-confidence journey and how I can help you improve. You can use my Contact Form, email me directly at email@example.com or find me on Twitter: @IrreverentGent. I’d love to hear from you.
Thanks again for visiting, and sorry about all the lame jokes.*
*I’m also sorry for all the apologies – I can’t help it, dammit, I’m Canadian!**
**Sorry, was that too much?
(aka, the part where I cover my ass)
The information shared on this website is meant for entertainment purposes only. I hold no degrees in medicine, psychology, exercise physiology or style(ology?), and I am not an expert in any of those fields. (I do, however, have degrees in philosophy and journalism, so I am an expert at not getting a job after graduating.)
If you are in search of medical or psychological advice, speak to your doctor immediately or seek out a trained professional.