Signs of a Confident ManYou’ve probably noticed that some guys just seem to exude confidence.

The problem is that, while it’s obvious that men who convey confidence stand out from the crowd, it’s not always obvious what “conveying confidence” even means.

Just what are the signs of a confident man? And more to the point, what characteristics or traits do you need to develop in order to join his ranks?

It took me more than a few years to find answers to those questions. I wish I could tell you I finally figured it out after years of careful study and the obtainment of a phD in human nature.

But the truth is that it was as simple as closely observing the kind of extremely confident, self-assured men I wanted to become, and making note of what set them apart.

You Can Accelerate Your Efforts

The impact of understanding the signs of a confident man definitely helped me accelerate my own confidence-building. Once I had a clear list of the characteristics that confident men possess, becoming one myself was simply a matter of going through the list and developing as many of their traits as I could.

And you can do the same. Below you’ll find 31 character traits, all of which are sure signs of a confident man. Check out the list and ask yourself which of these confident characteristics you already have, and which ones you need to start developing.

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Signs of a Confident Man

What does the confident man do differently? Well, he…

Thinks Abundantly

Signs of a Confident ManConfident guys have what Stephen Covey, author of The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, called an “abundance mindset.” They don’t think in zero-sum terms, but instead look for win-win solutions that bolster everyone.

Gives Generously

Following from their abundance mindset, confident guys give first and take second. This doesn’t always mean monetary giving either; they give their time, energy and attention without expecting anything in return.

Possesses Power, Presence and Warmth

These are the three components that research has identified as being vital to charisma, according to Olivia Fox Cabane, author of The Charisma Myth. The man who possesses all three will not just be charismatic, but confident.

Is Kind

Confidence and kindness go hand in hand. When you possess power, presence and warmth in equal measure, you have no fear that your kindness will be misconstrued as weakness – and no qualms about treating other people well.

Speaks Well

Confident men aren’t necessarily the most talkative – you don’t have to be a gregarious extrovert to be confident – but when they do speak, they’re able to express their ideas clearly.

Carries Himself Well

Signs of a Confident ManConfident guys convey their self-esteem not just through the way they communicate with words, but through their body language.

Makes Strong Eye Contact

There’s something personal, almost intimate, about looking into someone’s eyes. Confident guys don’t shy away from it; instead, they meet people’s gaze and feel comfortable holding it.

Smiles Freely

Insecure guys sometimes think they have to scowl and look brooding in order to convey strength. Confident guys recognize the benefits of smiling and never hesitate to express optimism and joy.

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Takes Pride in His Accomplishments

Signs of a Confident ManConfidence doesn’t mean arrogance. Confident men don’t waste time bragging about petty shit, but they don’t shy away from acknowledging their achievements, either.

Remains Humble

Yes, it’s possible to be both proud of your accomplishments and humble at the same time. Confident guys are proud, but also secure enough that they don’t have to boast about every little thing they’ve ever done.

Doesn’t Put on Airs

Part of being confident means being comfortable in your own skin, flaws and all. As a result, confident guys don’t pretend to be something they’re not – and definitely don’t pretend to be more hautier, more cultured or more sophisticated than anyone else.

Listens Well

One distinct advantage of being secure enough to not talk about yourself all the time is that it frees you up to listen. Confident guys genuinely listen to what others have to say and make other people feel acknowledged.

Is Assertive, But Not Aggressive

Insecure guys will often try to mask their insecurity with bravado, which sometimes results in needless aggression. Confident men stand up for what they think is right, but do it in a diplomatic way.

Stands Up For Himself and Others

In addition to standing up for their principles, confident guys stand up for their people. This manifests itself in ways both large and small, from protecting people in a physical altercation to defending their friend’s reputations when others disparage them.

Is Easy Going

Confident guys are comfortable enough in themselves that they don’t get too riled up; instead, they’re able to let things slide and don’t waste time sweating the small stuff.

Has an Open Mind

Confident guys are able to entertain new ideas without becoming defensive or territorial, which opens them up to a wide variety of possibilities and experiences.

Has A Solid Sense of Humor

Having a good sense of humor doesn’t mean you’re going to get up on stage and improv a 10-minute stand up set. But because confident guys are easy going, they’re able to laugh at life’s many absurdities – and laugh off things that lesser men might perceive as slights.

Looks Put Together

Signs of a Confident ManEven if they don’t exactly look like George Clooney on the red carpet, confident guys know that when you look good, you feel good, and invest enough time to present themselves well.

Expresses Gratitude

Confident guys recognize what they have and actively express gratitude for it.

Doesn’t Take Criticism Personally

Confident guys are able to recognize criticism for what it is: feedback. Sometimes it’s valid, sometimes it’s not, but confident guys realize that it’s never a personal indictment.

Behaves Like a Gentleman

The more confident you are, the more likely you are to practice proper etiquette. Confident guys hold doors, display patience and otherwise behave like a gentleman.

Displays Leadership

It’s definitely possible to be confident without being a leader – but it’s impossible to be a leader without being confident. Setting a strong example for others is a sure sign of confidence.

Steps Outside His Comfort Zone

Confidence allows you to be more comfortable with discomfort. Confident guys embrace self-improvement, and recognize that the only way to grow is to try new things and step outside their comfort zone every once in awhile.

Lives Proactively

Confident guys embrace another of Covey’s seven habits: they take action. Confidence and action have a reciprocal relationship: the more confident you feel, the more prone you are to taking action, and the more you take action, the better you feel about yourself – and the more confidence you build.

Compliments Others

The confident guy follows the advice Dale Carnegie laid out in How to Win Friends & Influence People some 80 years ago, which is as true today as it was then: “be hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise.” The confident man compliments others frequently and prides himself on making others feel good.

Values Honesty

Confidence gives you the strength to express yourself honestly and resist the urge to try to hide who you are. As a result, confident guys are honest both with themselves and with others.

Knows His Strengths and Weaknesses

Because their honest with themselves, confident guys are able to recognize their own strengths and weaknesses, which allows them to identify areas where they need to improve.

Learns Continuously

Signs of a Confident ManConfident guys remember the words of Socrates: “All I know is that I know nothing.” (Like I said: they’re pretty humble.) They perpetually seek out new knowledge in order to continue learning and growing.

Apologizes Easily

When you’re insecure you’re often defensive, which can prevent you from admitting when you’ve done something wrong. Confident guys know they’re not perfect and have an easier time acknowledging when they’ve made a mistake. And because they’re proactive, they’re also quicker to set about fixing it.

Makes Decisions

When you’re unsure of yourself, you tend to agonize over every little decision. Confident guys make a call, because they know that if they’re wrong they have the strength of character to own up to it and correct it without feeling embarrassed.

Overcomes Over-Thinking

Confident guys are just as prone to negative thoughts and self-doubt as anyone else. The difference is that they do what they have to in order to overcome these hurdles, and don’t let themselves get bogged down.

The good news is that keeping negative thoughts at bay and cultivating a confident mindset is actually pretty straightforward. To find out how to do it, enter your email address below and I’ll send my proven, four-step process for overcoming negativity straight to your inbox.

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2 COMMENTS

  1. Great post. I’ve definitely found myself wondering what “it” is that confident guys have, and especially how confidence is different than arrogance. Thanks for sharing your insight.

    • You’re welcome Aaron! I know what you mean – the difference between confidence and arrogance is something I spent a long time pondering as well. It’s not always obvious, but they are definitely distinct.

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